Friday, 26 March 2010

Reasonable VS False Hope

I was given a thirty-days-to-live prognosis. It was lung cancer. I'd previously had one lung removed. Now, four months later, the cancer was back. This time it was in my ribs and lymph system. The surgeon put his hand on my shoulder and said,

"The tiger is out of the cage. Your cancer has come roaring back. I would give you about thirty days to live."

Part of the reason that the surgeon was mistaken is that no healthcare provider can predict a person's response to illness. After several days of believing I would die, I made a profound decision.

I decided to live.

Please understand clearly what I am saying. By deciding to live I made a decision to do all I could to triumph over the cancer. I was determined to live each day I was given to the very best of my ability. I chose not to focus on the despair communicated in the surgeon's words. I would instead adopt a stance of hopefulness. These decisions dramatically changed my experience of illness. They resulted not only in better days but many more days as well. I believe such decision by you may result in a similar outcome.

"Hope is some extraordinary spiritual grace that God gives us to control our fears, not to oust them..."

This message has its vocal critics. It's controversial. More than once, esteemed members of the health-care community have publicly accused me of spreading false hope. My answer is simple and direct.

I believe there is no such thing as false hope. There is only REASONABLE hope. Reasonable hope is a medicine worthy of consumption in large doses.

What is clearly false is a doctor's pronouncement that sets a limit on the amount of time a patient may have left to live. That's "false hopelessness". It is false because no human being knows how long anyone has left to live.

My response to the surgeon was strong. I said,

"Thank you doctor. You've given me thirty days to live. Wow! That's wonderful because God only gives me one day at a time!"

Healers instill hope. They do not schedule death.

There is no such thing as hopeless. Decide to live - today! Embrace hope deep within your spirit. It heals. It is a decision that always lead to greater quality in our days. I also believe it leads to a greater quantity of our days.

Two paths are before you. One is marked by the road signs of passivity and despair;the other by the guideposts of ENGAGEMENT and HOPE. You have a choice.

Please, choose hope.

If you have been told that your time is limited, believe that life can still be a fulfilling adventure. Choose to live life to the very fullest. Focus on the possibilities, not the problem. Affirm that each day is a good and perfect gift in spite of the circumstances of illness.

Keep you thoughts on hope and healing. In that intentional choice are the seeds of your cancer recovery. Water those seeds, not the weeds.

Without question, you can improve your potential for survival. What you do makes a significant difference. Believe it: there is no such thing as a hopeless situation.

*Taken from "Cancer: 50 Essential Things To Do" by Greg Anderson.


I have been given a similar so-called 'death sentence'. 3 months has passed, and by the will of Allah, here I am, still standing, still given the chance to strive. And I believe, it is a sign from my Creator that He wants me to not lose hope just yet.

Even when the world says "Give up Mas!", hope whispers "Try it one more time."

And I, will therefore keep on battling.


Ibn MuSa said...


Even when the world says "Give up Mas!", hope whispers "Try it one more time."

I like this quotation. I totally agree with what you said because we determine how our lives become, not others. Others may affect us, but in the end, it is us who lead our lives.

Always be strong and have hope in Allah. InsyaAllah you will always be rewarded by Allah, Mas!

Misses and Salams from Nottingham

joegrimjow said...

fightoooo oh

...@tiyy@h... said...

Fight it Mas...Allah sentiasa ada di samping Mas...not lose hope...terus berjuang..!!!!

rhapsody LiN said...

aca... aca fighting!!!


Mohd Shahnom Ismail said...

Its our hope, nobody can take it

sYaMi-Satu Penjuru said...

anda inspirasi~

thank you=')


dan_alrashid said...

jangan kisah. di hadapan ada sesuatu yang lebih indha sekiranya anda yakin dengan harapan kepada Allah. ana juga mendoakan kebaikan buat akhi setelah tahu daripada Ustaz Hasrizal. Ana bekerja bersama dia kini. Insyaallah kita ketemu dengan izin Allah.

Shah Alam.

RoSe_ViOleTE said...

teruskan perjuangan!!
doa kami sentiasa mengiringi langkah perjuangan anda.

ukm bangi

ummuNaim said...

Kami sentiasa doakan kesembuhan mas..InsyaAllah!!! Don't giveup mas!!

muhammadthoriq said...

aja aja fighting!
sori msih x berpeluang jumpe mas lagi mase ni.i-allah dlm mase terdekat ni.

We are the artist for the paintings of our lives.
Though we have no talent,
but we'll learn by time.
Our drawings; there is always One who admire them.
If they are For Him

zafiqa said...

teruskan perjuangan...

Mas Afzal said...

I got this piece of writing from Greg Anderson's book. It was clear that his positive attitude prevailed over the severity of his condition.

Attitude and spirituality really do play SIGNIFICANT role in the wellness of our body.

Mas Afzal said...
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Anonymous said...


This is a beautiful lecture by Dr Randy Pausch. Maybe you've heard it before but I love hearing it over and over again.


Humaira said...

Salam..alhamdulillah.. sometimes i do feel that sickness and poverty bring us closer to Allah instead of having a lot of money and live life easily.. Human (me), never feel enough with what we have neither thanked Allah for what He gave. May Allah guide all of us till we meet Him.